The ABC's Of Hope

We're so grateful for friends that share their wisdom and care for us during this process. Recently, our friend Dean talked about a common myth and here's what he said...

Quoting Albert Ellis' ABCs:
Antecedent (means circumstances or situation)
Belief
Consequences

He said "...a common myth believed is that our A's determine our C's". So the common myth is: Our circumstances determine our consequences.
This is how Alan and I believe the ABC's apply to us:
Our family, friends, the US and China say our circumstances are good for a baby girl to become part of our family, and there are LOTS of babies in China without a family. CONSEQUENTLY, one would think that this should have happened quickly and been a great experience. There are days it feels like the opposite of those things. There are days we say things like 'none of this makes sense...'

What that brings us to is the B. Our Belief.

Putting aside the A=C myth does not keep us from being eager for Mattie; God made us to have feelings and desires! However, we Beleive the Lord has a plan and purpose that reaches far beyond anything we can comprehend, and at the same time He cares about us and wants the best for us. These two go together, and one is not separate from the other.

We long for this child that God intends to be part of our family. We don't need to see her to know she is amazing, and perfect for us.

We will wait as long as it takes, while we Rest in the Arms of our Almighty.